Revealing Fashions: How Much is Too Much? (5)
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A couple of years ago, I was attending a convention and participated in a socializing "mixer" one evening in
the hotel bar. A rather attractive, full-figured young woman was there as well. She had an ample bosom and full hips on a petite frame. She was
a slightly overweight, but not significantly so. The problem was in the way she chose to dress. She wore a cap-sleeved dress with a corseted
bodice and a knee-length, fitted skirt with a slit to the top of the thigh. The bodice was cinched very tightly to emphasize her waist and hips,
and lift her breasts.
The resulting look was flattering as she stood at the bar and surveyed the room, and she definitely
attracted the attention of most of the men present (which was, I assume, her goal). However, when she moved the effect was ruined. The slit in
her skirt revealed the tops of her thigh-length stockings and garter clasps with every step, while her breasts rippled like custard as she
moved, because they were cinched up so tightly.
I was, unfortunately, a witness to some very unkind remarks and speculation made by men who were standing
near me. What was worse was witnessing the men who approached the young woman and asked her to dance, and then proceeded to take obviously
unwanted liberties. The young woman left the event early after being provoked into slapping two particularly crude young men, one of whom
attempted to lift one of her breasts from her blouse while his companion tried to slide a hand inside the slit of her skirt.
I regret now that I did not step in to intervene before this happened, but I am still unsure how I would
have broached this subject without offending the young woman. That's why I am relaying this story here - to hopefully prevent something similar
from happening to someone else.
Undergarments:
There are some schools of thought in modern fashion that say it is sexy to show hints of your undergarments
from beneath your clothing. We often see the T-straps of thongs peeking out of the back of low-rise pants. Some women wear blouses unbuttoned to
show a bit of brassiere, or wear sheer blouses that completely reveal the bra. These looks might be the current fad, but they are completely off
the mark for the sophisticated woman.
If you intend for someone to see your undergarments, then it should be done in a private setting. In public,
however, an undergarment should remain under the clothing. Furthermore, undergarments, especially brassieres, should be chosen carefully. Every
woman needs at least three colors of brassiere - white, flesh-toned, and black. White bras are appropriate for white or light colored blouses
and dresses in opaque fabrics. Conversely, black bras are for black or dark colored blouses and dresses in opaque fabrics. For clothing that is
sheer or translucent, flesh-toned bras are the right choice.
There are times when you want to wear lingerie that will eventually be seen in the course of an evening.
Whenever possible, try to match the color of such lingerie to the garments you are wearing, to avoid any color clash through the clothing.
Now, for a final word on dressing sexy: None of what has been said
above should be taken as absolutes. The
suggestions offered aren't the only means of displaying your best assets, regardless of what they might be. The purpose of this message has been
to offer some awareness of the transient nature of "what is sexy" so that you don't lock yourself into a concept that is unrealistic. I firmly
believe that there is something beautiful about every person and that every woman can look her very best with the right advice.
Stacy ©greatestlook.com
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